I don’t like to get out into crowds alone or go to church alone. I have constant hate from my family. I am sensitive with criticism, if someone said something bad,I thought to myself that I was just being sensitive but actually their words hurting me. For the longest time I tried to form lasting friendships, meaningful relationship, and change myself to make my parents like me. I don’t want to blame myself so I end up crying, trying to find on why I am so sad about that. i totaly agree with you it is like my life you talking about. And when years later I found a partner, he too chose his mom over me. They carried the same nagative values into adult life, the same mental idea that it is okay to tread on other people to remain popular, to reach the top – and that is exactly where they are! i’m just so sorry. I feel as though I’m not good enough or pretty enough for anyone to love. I’m 31, live at home, don’t drive, and have no job because I’m a neurotic coward. I just want a way to better understand myself, so I could better live my life. Happiness is (mostly) a choice. To me, this makes a lot more organic sense than doing battle with ourselves. These steps comprise a method developed by psychologist and author of Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice Dr. Robert Firestone known as Voice Therapy. Nobody Likes Me lyrics performed by Alice Cooper: Nobody likes me It's all my fault Nobody likes me Nobody likes me Oh yes we all like you We like you a lot Yes we all like you Yes we all like you I never get a letter We have no time Never ever get a call from you I have no dime Oh yes you do Oh no we don't (x 3) Yes! I recently found out that I am on the autism spectrum, high functioning, what used to be called asberger syndrome. I lived this way for many years sometimes using pot and alcohol to numb my pain. Browse for Nobody Likes Me song lyrics by entered search phrase. Maybe I’ll feel free of it in heaven. I’m 68 years old and don’t have one person who ever cared about me. Many people even start to imagine the voice as coming from a figure in their lives, a parent who always worried they’d never make friends, for example. Maybe others say that due to ONE particular aspect of yours which you find normal or unique, but is actually quite irritating or immoral. I was diagnosed with Major Depression Syndrome 3 years ago. I often have to make the mental note to smile because I do not do it naturally. reading all these posts firstly makes me very sad because i feel each of your pain as i feel that way too. Im only noticed when someone tries to use me which is sad depressing. Best of luck to you. I didn’t realize it…but like the article said, the repetition lead me to become these things even more. Why when I’m in a bad mood or grumpy or pissed does anyone ask are you ok? Perhaps I don’t know what I’m missing. I feel that is is very easy for people to abuse this strength of ours. Its cowardly and unkindly. I guess. That was supposed to be who I thought as a friend & who for one visit started to get spiritual counseling to let my daughter see that it wasn’t wrong to get help, to let her see I would be willing to do that to help her & me for a relationship. I discovered how many family gatherings I was excluded from while going through the stuff in my late aunt’s apartment. Im 43 years old and the saga continues. I put my energy into my kids. It’s either the people are too weird or it’s too far away. I’m just not sure if I care or not. There’s been few moments where people tell me bluntly that I’m a terrible person. Then feel really stupid for acting obnoxious against my nature. It’s depressing. What’s a non-stereotypical person to do? I really do feel no one likes me. Once that axiom sinks in, it’s a lot easier to get away from the TV and start reprogramming your mind with healthy stuff and dealing with your flaws proactively. I bet if you were that fly on the wall, you would see people doing exactly the same as you, but with very different results. Internal Family Systems therapy is the go-to paradigm; it’s a way of moving closer to aspects of ourselves that originated as proactive defenses to childhood threats, but which now cause trouble for us. My mom, dad, with the rest of my family dont like me its all pretend happy when they see me but they all hate me even at work im not noticed. I don’t know of a way that I can get out of this dilemma but reading the comments on this website has made me realize I’m not the only one that feels worthless at times. No, I won’t involve them in my life unless they make an effort and I am legitimately interested in spending time with them. Yet, it seems anything I say or do is taken as offensive or weird, and no one can stand to be around me. And what about many of us good men that are still single that really wanted a wife and family too? i will actually go round folk when im having a bad day and ask them if i have done anything to annoy them . Probably to late but I refuse to die so send some luck to all of us in this boat we’ll maybe find each other!!! I’m 32 now but it nvr stopped. It didn’t work. None of this could have been predicted from your difficult childhood and lack of adult care in your life. Im a very generous, kind, helpful, fun, sincere, loyal person. I look forward to reading more and learning how to silence the negative self hatred. I don’t think I’m a picky person for friends, but just give me somone who is funny and nice THATS ALL I WANT I want to stop playing video games all day and mindless tv I feel like I’m waistjng MY time away and every day I’ll think “when I get a boyfriend life will be exiting” or “when I drive I’ll finally be not so lonley” but when THOSE things happen I’m worried I’ll never be not lonley…. So here goes. I wish I wasn’t like this, but I suppose how life in general, has impacted on me, I come across as this kind of person. want to slap my demons away and you can too. Yet he is constantly invited to things evidenced by FB photos and I sit home uninvited. In my team no girls ever talk to me, I was very lonely so I quit. I think I have a deep dark ugliness side that people see and don’t want me around. But I’m a white lesbian who looks like an attractive straight woman. Everything we are thinking is based on how everyone else treats us. I don’t feel people hate me so much, rather just ignore me. I could have written that myself. I feel for you , the only thing my family value about me , is that they got rid of me . I would suggest seeing a therapist if you can afford one. I completely agree with you this article is great! Most people have more going for them. You will find the right friends I know you will. I have many qualities that many people would appreciate and like.” Don’t listen to the undermining criticisms that come up as you complete this exercise. I will have compassion for myself. Hi John, People sense that and they may become afraid, consciously or not, that if they give you reassurance you will cling to them and demand more and more, which is very daunting if they are already having to work hard to maintain their own confidence. I have gone through this. I’m stuck. You are not the opinions of others. Are they just pandering me because they pity me? yeah — and what do you do when your own mother tells you point blank and directly that nobody in the family likes you? In addition a GOOD B complex…one a day is very important too as the Bs work synergistically. I stayed because I wanted to see if he ever would run out of himself. I know people that are more rude than me, less rude than me, funnier than me, less funny, smarter, dummer, more interesting, more boring, more altruistic, more selfish, less shy, more shy, more narcisistic, more modest and all of them have more friends at any time then I had in my whole life. I have never had therapy and I personally don’t do drugs of any kind. I deeply appreciate your thoughts and it made a lots of sense to me. In her book Yes, Please comedian Amy Poehler described this inner enemy as “a demon voice.” She wrote, “This very patient and determined demon shows up in your bedroom one day and refuses to leave. Here are some common reasons below. I really feel like nobody likes me. I could tell you other stories where my good intentions have been misconstrued and where I have been called selfish and all these events have left me feeling worthless. That and being deep means we crave, intimate and meaningful relationships. Does that make sense? A few months ago my wife and I were sitting having a chat (we'd both been drinking) a very nice chat up until she told me that nobody likes me. This is an amazing perspective . If someone is experiencing feelings of depression, anxiety, loneliness or social isolation, it can be extremely beneficial to seek therapy. Yeah they might have a lot of friends but I bet in the end when they need them they probably won’t even be there. Never … But I would like to thank you for posting this as it has helped me in seeing that I must forgive and accept the past in order to move on. Yet, the manipulative, popular person passes the litmus test because they have friends. 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